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This blog is a compilation of thoughts, musings and experiences of my life as a Civil Celebrant, mixed in with my reactions to relevant current events and news stories. There’s always lots to talk about!
Planning Your Mixed-Faith Ceremony

Planning Your Mixed-Faith Ceremony

Planning your mixed-faith ceremony doesn’t have to be a challenge. However, there is potential for disagreements, so it is as well to be as ready for them as possible. Certainly, clarity of vision, patience, tolerance and compromise are good skills to be able to...

To Cry, or Not to Cry ….

To Cry, or Not to Cry ….

As a celebrant, I sometimes want to cry at a ceremony I'm conducting. That may be surprising. But this might be because I have lost someone myself, or it may just be the reflected emotion of the occasion. But is it right for me to cry? And is it right for the punter...

Rituals – why bother?

Rituals – why bother?

As a celebrant, I obviously officiate at many types of ceremony. Some are quite conventional; others, less so. Some include ritual, while many do not. Rituals are too numerous to list (and originate from a whole variety of cultures). No selection is going to be...

Wedding Guests

Wedding Guests

Although my speciality, of course, is ceremonies, I have quite some experience of other aspects of weddings, and I’d like to focus on guests today. Wedding invitations typically inspire one of two reactions: “Yay! I’m getting married! Who can I invite?” Or “Yay! I’ve...

A Celebrant’s Typical Day

A Celebrant’s Typical Day

People are often quite curious about my work. One of the questions I sometimes get asked is “What is a celebrant’s typical day like?” The first answer is that there isn’t a “typical” day, really. One of the beauties of the work that I do is that there’s a lot of...

Questions to ask your Celebrant

Questions to ask your Celebrant

Before you commit, you’re going to have questions to ask your celebrant. That’s normal. I’m going to anticipate some of them for you. How can I trust the Celebrant? Word of mouth is obviously a good starting-point. However, you may not have witnessed a celebrant in...

Funerals? What Could Possibly Go Wrong?!

Funerals? What Could Possibly Go Wrong?!

Considerable work and preparation goes into ensuring that a life-cycle ceremony goes smoothly and is memorable for the right reasons! However, even with the best-laid plans and the most accomplished professionals in place, things go pear-shaped occasionally. This...

Can you Cut Corners with a Wedding?

Can you Cut Corners with a Wedding?

It can be dangerous to cut corners when planning weddings. However, it is not always necessary to “go the whole hog”. You can make savings. Clearly, there are going to be differences between a society wedding and one with a dozen guests. Then there are destination...

Is it Better to Marry in a Religious Ceremony?

Is it Better to Marry in a Religious Ceremony?

Whether or not it is better to marry in a religious ceremony is subjective in the extreme. There may sometimes be outside pressures (such as parents), but normally it is down to the couple. Of course, they may disagree and will need to seek a compromise. Recent...