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This blog is a compilation of thoughts, musings and experiences of my life as a Civil Celebrant, mixed in with my reactions to relevant current events and news stories. There’s always lots to talk about!
What goes into a Mixed-Faith Ceremony?

What goes into a Mixed-Faith Ceremony?

A mixed-faith ceremony isn't always straightforward. How many religious elements is your service to contain? Will your two religions be represented equally? How do you judge that? And what do you leave out? Does your family have issues about you “marrying out”? If...

Weddings and Love

Weddings and Love

Love is easy enough when you’re infatuated. That first stage of a relationship is like walking on air. You’ve got no worries and it’s difficult to stop smiling. At some point after your engagement or even wedding day, that love changes and develops. It may not be so...

I remember Weddings!

I remember Weddings!

It must have been so hard for brides and grooms to have to face uncertainty about their wedding arrangements. Over months and even years. Should they marry, but postpone the celebrations, perhaps till the first anniversary? Do they just marry, and skip the...

Is it Freedom at last?

Is it Freedom at last?

I’m very excited! It’s been almost two years since I last conducted a wedding, and my next one is at the weekend! Woo hoo! Weddings are something I’m passionate about and have really missed through the lockdowns. Not just financially, although that has been a...

The Ultimate Guide to Choosing your Celebrant

The Ultimate Guide to Choosing your Celebrant

When you and your partner are standing in front of all your guests, about to be married, you’re going to be nervous. Much depends on the person who is up there with you both. If the celebrant is curt and uncaring, that will make things worse. If they empathise and are...

Out of the Ordinary

Out of the Ordinary

People choose to work with a celebrant because they want their ceremony to stand out. Not run-of-the-mill, but memorable, unique and unforgettable. So the extraordinary may just be an ordinary part of my job. On the negative side, I rang a bride a couple of days...

Finding the right Wedding Venue

Finding the right Wedding Venue

Unless your ceremony is taking place at home or in the back garden, you’re going to be looking to hire a venue. That’s something you should take seriously, as the atmosphere and facilities can make all the difference to (probably) the biggest day of your lives....

Wedding Fails

Wedding Fails

As last week’s blog (about outstanding ceremonies) seemingly aroused some curiosity, I thought I’d continue the thread. This time it’s about things that didn’t quite go to plan ... This example takes some beating, I think. Maybe not the right sort of Conduct I am...

“Oh, just another ceremony!”

“Oh, just another ceremony!”

I’m often asked to tell a story or two about my experiences as a civil celebrant. Here are a couple that have stood out for me, among the many. “Best” Funeral I suspect there will be no topping the funeral I conducted for a 92-year-old. It turns out that he died in...