Starting to plan a wedding

May 1, 2018

If you decide to plan a wedding yourself, go into it with eyes wide open.

As with most things, you have to put in the work in order to ensure success. And it doesn’t make any real difference whichever end of the market you are aiming at.

If you’re willing to take advice and are prepared to work hard, then you can do it!

Here’s how you can get started.

Hiring professionals

You are likely to be hiring professionals, which could include all or some of the following:  wedding planners, photographers, caterers, celebrants and florists. How do you know which to choose?


Don’t go with the first quote you receive, even if it seems reasonably-priced. Ask  two or three suppliers. Better still, try and arrange a personal meeting.  Skype or, at least, phoning are a good second best). That way you can ask questions directly and get a feel for the supplier’s personality and professionalism. If you take an instant dislike to your celebrant, say, you won’t want to work with them over the course of the year or so while  the service is compiled. You certainly won’t be eager for them to conduct your actual ceremony!

Testimonials (especially first-hand) and web-sites can be very informative too.


Obviously, don’t leave things till the last moment, but allow reasonable time. Success is in the planning.

To avoid disappointment, especially when looking at venues, get in as early as you can.

You need to be prepared (lists are good!) so that you do not spring last-minute surprises on your suppliers. Maybe you have specific dietary requirements for the caterer – don’t leave them till the day before!

You need to read Ts & Cs carefully and be sure of what you can expect from the supplier.


You will have to choose your venue carefully. Depending on budget and climate, the world is almost your oyster. You can save money by planning the wedding out of season or at an unusual venue (such as a beach or field). The time of day of the reception can also be significant for pricing.


If you are trying to reduce expenditure, take care not to stint on what really matters to you (be it clothing, the guest-list or whatever). You might be able to cut some corners elsewhere. It should go without saying, but don’t take unilateral decisions! Consult with your partner before you act!

Keep within budget!

Don’t forget to organise accommodation, both for yourself and for out-of-towners, if necessary.

If you leave yourself plenty of time (and make notes and ask questions), there’s no reason at all why your big day can’t go completely smoothly. As long as you have thought through what you want, your every desire can be fulfilled.

My gift to you

My “Wedding Countdown Checklist”  details what needs to be done and by when. To receive it completely free of charge, please e-mail me at

Alternatively, for about £5 on Amazon, you can purchase my book “Your Wedding Guide” ( You know, I can heartily recommend it!!