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Don’t Worry …!
Don’t Worry …!

19 May 2020

Most of us have enough to worry us during lockdown. I don’t think I have to explain that statement.

But when else might we experience worry?

Many people do worry a lot before a public occasion such as their wedding. These worries encompass things they can’t alter (like the weather) and things they can (such as preparing thoroughly for the event).

Let’s look at a few concerns and see if we can minimise them.

Weather

England is noted for unpredictable weather. What if it’s too wet? Too sunny?

If it’s an outdoor event, you may be able to switch to somewhere sheltered. You may be able to provide parasols/umbrellas, cold/hot drinks. Or you face the reality with cheerful stoicism. Nobody will be blaming you, so make the most of a potentially bad job.

The Spotlight

It is very common to hate the limelight. What if you trip in the aisle? What if you cry? What if you don’t like being photographed? And what if you have to speak during the ceremony?

The chances of tripping can be reduced, if you practise wearing your wedding shoes (at home) before the ceremony.

Crying is perfectly reasonable during such an emotional occasion. Go for it! (Wear waterproof mascara, and your bridesmaids can be supplied with an emergency make-up kit for you.)

Hopefully, you will have chosen a photographer you feel happy with. You can suggest a pre-wedding shoot, though, so you’ll feel easier and more relaxed in front of the camera later.

If you have to speak (beyond “I do”!) during the ceremony, make sure you speak slowly and clearly. At the very least, speak so that your partner and the celebrant can hear you, but if you can project a bit further, the guests will appreciate it. Microphones solve this, but you have to cope with reading from a crib sheet, if you use one, and, possibly, holding the microphone, if it’s not on a stand.

Things Going Wrong

Of course, there may be moments when things don’t go quite to plan. Firstly, people may not notice (or choose to ignore) these. Secondly, they are rarely as significant as they may seem. Thirdly, you can avoid most with good preparation. Use trusted professionals (from wedding planner to civil celebrant to toastmaster) for best results.

So, rest assured: things will not be as bad as you fear, especially if you use a team of reliable professionals. Just enjoy (especially the day itself) and let others take the strain.

Author:

Michael Gordon can help prepare and conduct a tailor-made civil ceremony in or around London or, indeed, in Europe. Telephone me now on +44 (0)7931 538487 or contact me directly by e-mail.

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