Most wedding services contain wedding vows recited by the couple. These may be traditional or novel.
The traditional ones will be of the “for better or for worse” type. The novel ones can be personal and unique (“I promise to walk the dog every day”), maybe with some humour.
The personalised ones require thought, of course. The traditional ones do not – but they can be sincere nonetheless, and they have stood the test of time.
Writing your own vows is not easy and, once your other half is engaged in it, becomes a commitment. You don’t want to let anybody down.
The fact that they are personal to you makes the vows unique. You may want to steer away from sentimentality, or that may suit you. You might want to throw in some humour, especially if your loved one has some idiosyncrasies! You might want to keep it short or you may have a lot to say,
The important thing is that you are sincere (and deliver your vows clearly).
Your civil celebrant can advise you,
Moving On
But time passes. Maybe your vows are no longer valid? You may both have changed over time, both emotionally, psychologically and physically. Perhaps your family has increased.
Whatever the circumstances, you may want to rewrite your vows and announce them.
So, how can you do this?
The simplest way is to organise a Vow Renewal ceremony.
This doesn’t have to be a grand affair (although it can be). It certainly doesn’t have to be formal (again, it can be). It can be down in your own back garden, say, or in a manor house. The great thing is that it doesn’t have to be legally registered or performed under certain restrictions. You can organise the do that you choose in the venue of your choice.
The idea is to have a memorable and fun (though partly-serious) occasion.
The running of the ceremony can be in the hands of your Civil Celebrant. Together, you put together the service of your dreams. Your celebrant can advise you about religious content (if any), rituals and who can participate and how. You sort the guests and refreshments.
Oh, yes, and the wording of the vows!
Please speak to me about a Vow Renewal. It’s such a happy event!!
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