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What goes into your Wedding Vows
What goes into your Wedding Vows

29 October 2018

I recently wrote some guidelines about starting writing your own wedding vows. The eagle-eyed among you will have spotted that I didn’t cover the content.

That’s what I want to look at here.

Of course, you might already have all the ideas you want, but, just in case, I’d like to make a few suggestions that you should find useful.

The basics

Whether you are writing fairly traditional wedding vows or brand new ones, the following could be worth considering:

  • You will probably want to express deep emotional love for your partner (why else are you going through this whole ceremony?!)
  • You can mention your first meeting (was it ‘love at first sight’ or organic growth?)
  • You may want to talk about when you first realised you were in love
  • How has your life changed since you met your partner, since you fell in love?
  • Talk about your plans and aspirations for your future life together – or growing old together
  • Promise to stay together in the future, come what may

If you feel uncomfortable expressing such emotions publicly, you can always quote from a song, film or poem that captures what you want to say. You can also use metaphor or simile to get your message across beautifully and effectively – and less embarrassingly!


Although most of what you say should be serious, there’s also room for a little judicious humour. In fact, a humorous example can help personalise the vows and give you ownership.

Putting it together

So think through what you want to say, plan it, put it on paper, and leave the draft for a day, if possible. Then review it and get feedback from someone who knows you (and who will be honest!). Finally, use the above tips to put it all together. Make sure to practise saying it.

For sure, your civil celebrant will be happy to give you their opinion, if you want an independent, professional view.

To come up with a meaningful, original and affecting set of vows is not as difficult as you may think. The results will certainly be more than worth the effort!




Michael Gordon can help prepare and conduct a tailor-made civil ceremony in or around London or, indeed, in Europe. Telephone me now on +44 (0)7931 538487 or contact me directly by e-mail.

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