Season of Love

Season of Love

Yes, Valentine’s Day is on its way! For this is the season of love!

The 14th February is one of the most popular days in the calendar for proposing marriage.


The main attraction of that date, of course, is that love is all around! People are thinking romantically. Many are physically marking the occasion, often with an anonymous love message (whether a card or, nowadays, an e-mail [how romantic!]). They may prefer a red rose. Or what about a meal out?

I’m not denying that Valentine’s Day is a commercial opportunity.  However, it’s also a spur to think and act romantically, and that’s beautiful and all to the good.

So “love is in the air”, as the song goes, and that makes it easier to catch the mood and join in.


Whereas sending an anonymous message of love is a godsend for those who are shy, what about a marriage proposal? That can be quite another matter!

The nitty-gritty

When and where do you propose?

Do you want to do it in public? What if you’re turned down? You don’t want public humiliation.

If you’re in private, how do you bring it into the conversation?

One way to propose

I used to be shier than I am now and I had self-esteem issues. I wanted to propose (actually not on Valentine’s Day, but the principle holds good). I was fairly apprehensive, in truth, although I felt I was in with a good chance!

So I whisked my intended off for a few days in Rome. Now that’s romantic, isn’t it?!

I thought long and hard about the proposal. What if the answer meant rejection? I therefore decided to put it off to the last day, so that the majority of the holiday could pass without embarrassment.

The only problem with this was that I was on edge from the word go!

Resolution came by accident, in the event. We were in the ravishing Villa d’Este, on a fabulous day, on our second day in Rome, and had the place to ourselves. When we stopped at a bench, I didn’t hesitate and dropped to my knees.

Very fortunately, the answer was “yes” and the rest of the trip was magnificent!

Not everybody is going to be lucky enough to have Rome (and the elements) on their side.

What you do need to do is to weigh up the odds. When you’ve resolved to commit, be prepared. That means buying the ring, and deciding where you’ll propose. You might choose to do this at the end of a meal (whether self-cooked or in a restaurant), but not if you’re going to be so nervous that you can’t eat!

Wherever it is, try and set the mood (so the proposal doesn’t come totally out of the blue).

An idea

For a more elaborate plan, you could book a spot at, say, a boutique hotel or restaurant. A civil celebrant (such as myself!) could be lurking as you both come in. You propose marriage, get accepted, and give me the nod. I then come in and perform a brief engagement ceremony for you both. (The ceremony would have no legal significance, but be so beautiful!)

How romantic is that?

Yes, it truly is the sesaon of love!

Valentine’s Day Wedding

Ever considered a Valentine’s Day wedding?

Unfortunately, 14th February is on a Wednesday in 2018, so that may not seem the ideal day for you. However, a weekday wedding is perfectly feasible, so don’t rule it out.


Valentine’s Day has been around since Roman times (496 AD) and was celebrated with an exchange of hand-written love notes or cards in as early as the 1400s.

Its appeal as a wedding day is undeniable.


Modern day tips

If you choose to celebrate your wedding on Valentine’s Day, here are eight tips that you might interest you.

The Ceremony

If your officiant is a civil celebrant, you can write (or get him/her to help you write) your story as part of your wedding ceremony. By “story”, I mean how you met or what attracted – and still attracts – you to each other. This will help personalise the ceremony, and guests will love it!

Colour theme

You probably don’t need to agonise, as red or pink are traditionally the colours for Valentine’s Day.


A nice idea is to display in the lounge area photos of family members (whether living or not) on their wedding day. If there’s a fireplace, it would be great if it were lit. Otherwise, you may be able to give the illusion of a lit fireplace by using candles.

A dinner illuminated by candles can produce a wonderful effect (health & safety being duly observed, of course!). Sequined or silky table linens will make the candles shine even brighter.


Roses must be a given. However, amaryllis can be effective too.


You might be able to work with your caterers or venue and agree on a signature cocktail. This could have red garnishes (using cherries, strawberries or raspberries).


You’d probably choose a love song for your first dance anyway. However, on their reply slip to the invitation, you could also have asked each guest to fill in what their first dance music was (or what “their” song is). Put these on the playlist, and thus make your guests feel included.


Valentine’s Day is a day to indulge. You want a special cake. A modern heart pattern embossed into white fondant may be striking. Or you can choose a cake with a red filling.

Take-home gift

Maybe that’s not all you would give, but what about starting with a packet of Love Hearts?

Your celebrant can help make this special day even more special. Ask them to suggest some romantic rituals that might fit the bill.

You really can combine the traditional and modern into an unforgettable ceremony. A Valentine’s Day wedding can be a really exciting option.